I no longer allow Christmas to wig me out.
I absolutely will not stand for it.
I don’t do cards, cookie exchanges, group lunches followed by gift exchanges, over-reaching Christmas day meals, or binge-shopping anymore.
I give myself permission to stop decorating the house anytime I like (or not decorate much at all).
I don’t compare myself to anyone who may be trying to juggle all these balls.
I hope you find something you can use.
Hit it hard with a hot-buttered rum
My husband Chris and I got interested in hot-buttered rum thanks to an old movie, The Northwest Passage, where we watched Spencer Tracy make it in a huge copper pitcher. The men he served—Robert Young and Walter Brennan—woke up the next morning to find themselves one of Major Rogers’ (Tracy) “rangers” en route to discover a travel route from New Hampshire to the Pacific.
We’re history buffs as well and remembered hearing that often such drinks were heated with a poker heated up in a nearby fire then plunged into the mixture because customers were too impatient to wait for boiling water.
With these tidbits alone to recommended the drink, we tried several recipes and found we liked this one the best. It involves an ice cream base, which you can make ahead, freeze and use as needed. It looks (and tastes) rich, but you don’t use much in each individual drink, so it’s not really as damaging calorie-wise as it looks at first glance.
- ¼ pound butter
- ¼ pound confectioner’s sugar
- ¼ pound brown sugar
- ¾ tsp. ground cinnamon and ¼ tsp. ground nutmeg
- 1 cup vanilla ice cream, softened
Melt butter in saucepan over medium heat, then blend in both sugars. Remove from heat and whisk in ice cream and spices, stirring until fully melted and blended.
Measure 1 tablespoon of batter into a coffee mug with one fluid ounce of dark spiced rum. Fill the cup with boiling water and stir. The batter makes about 25 drinks. Pour the unused portion into a plastic storage container, seal, and freeze up to three months.
and then sprinkle with grated nutmeg.
Granted, the colonists didn’t have ice cream for their toddies (nor do Chris and I use a hot poker to warm ours). But like the original drink, the first mug is a dream, the second is a scream, and no one remembers what happens after the third. So go make some history for yourself.
Roast chestnuts the easy way
In fifth grade a classmate’s Italian immigrant mother made these for us, and I never forgot the sweet aroma, warmth and chewy lushness. Turns out you don’t need to roast them over an open fire like in the Christmas song. I’m sure they’d be extra good that way, but a traditional oven will do just fine.
I don’t remember seeing these in the produce aisle of the grocery store until maybe 10 years ago. They’re in season October through December and generally come with roasting instructions right on the bag!
But just in case, here’s the how-to:
- Look for netted bags of raw chestnuts. You want healthy, unwrinkled shells and a glossy brown surface. Dingy or mottled shells may indicate mold, and small pinholes likely indicate worms have been drilling; avoid such nuts (good advice with people too). Fresh chestnuts are firm to the touch and heavy in the hand, with no space between the shell and the nutmeat.
- Use a sharp knife to make an X-shaped incision about 1/8-inch deep into each chestnut shell. This can be done a day ahead.
- Spread on a baking sheet, scored side up, and roast in a preheated 425 degree F. oven for 20-30 minutes, or until shells start to open and curl back. Wrap hot chestnuts in a clean kitchen towel and squeeze gently to further loosen shells. Let stand, wrapped, five minutes.
- Remove the shell and the papery skin to reveal the meat, and serve immediately.
Some people salt them. We like ours straight up and serve them in the shell to open as we munch. Usually six per person is plenty.
Obviously you can’t use all of these at once on the same device, but pick and choose what best fuels your fantasy one holiday day and save the others for another.
One of the few things I miss in our nod to living smaller is a fireplace. Someday I’ll invest in one of those modern-looking, wall-mount electric jobbies—maybe built into the base of a new media stand—but for now it’s crackling logs on the flat-screen.
YouTube has many options, but I liked this one best because of length (eight hours), authentic (great crackling sounds!), close-up view (nobody else’s decorations), distraction-free (no people adding fuel, chatting in background, or music overlaid).
An easier way to have a white Christmas and synced to soft, non-holiday instrumental music in case you’re on carol overload. My own personal preference is to mute the New Age soundtrack and just watch the world fill up with snow while I listen to something else. Twelve full hours of mesmerizing images, and nothing to shovel or slip on afterward!
Windham Hill Winter Solstice music samplers
Or buy them all!
A stash of favorite Christmas movies
My top eight are heavy on classics:
- White Christmas (1954, trailer), with Bing Crosby, Rosemary Clooney, Danny Kaye and Vera Ellen
- The Bishop’s Wife (1947 trailer), with Cary Grant, Loretta Young and David Niven
- If You Believe (1999, full TV movie), with Ally Walker and a very young and precocious Hayden Panetierre as her inner child, haunting her every move
- Remember the Night (1940, trailer), with Barbara Stanwyck and Fred MacMurray, a touching, little-known movie
- Holiday Affair, (1949, trailer), with Robert Mitchum and a barely legal Janet Leigh
- It’s a Wonderful Life (1946, trailer), with James Stewart and Donna Reed
- The Shop Around the Corner (1940, trailer), with James Stewart, Margaret Sullavan and Frank Morgan, the original You’ve Got Mail
- Christmas in Connecticut (1945, trailer), with Barbara Stanwyck and Dennis Morgan
Presents for your pet
It may seem like I just threw this one in. But new toys for your pet will help YOU relax and may keep your pet from getting into trouble with all the ribbon, wraps and decorations lying about. And watching your pet with a new toy can be pretty darn entertaining.
I know nothing about dog toys, but picked out a few new toys for Miss Maisie, my crazy kitty-cat. They just came this week, and she chewed at the box until we opened it early. She was so ecstatic with the choices I had to share:
Ripple rug by Snuggly Cat, $39.99
The Ripple Rug is usually more than I pay for a cat toy, but it looked like something Maisie would really enjoy, and she obviously does.
This cat activity mat includes two 4-by-3-foot pieces of carpet made from recycled plastic bottles. The base piece lays out flat. The top piece has circles cut in it for the cat to peek and crawl through, as well as numerous Velcro squares on the back so it can be stuck against the base in various configurations.
Felted wool pillow by Feline Felties, $8.99
Can I just say that Maisie went EMBARRASSINGLY wild over this toy? It’s scented with organic catnip oil, and she detected it while it was still in the wrapper. When I didn’t open it right away, she carried the bag over to me and dropped it on the table next to my chair. She could barely contain herself until I tossed it for her to attack.
This is one of those vigorous play toys, and she kicked and chewed and bit it with all her might—a great vehicle for an indoor cat to work out aggression. Just as entertaining for owners to watch their cat’s drugged frenzy and eventual collapse. We’ll have to buy one of these for cousin Howie (my daughter Erin’s cat).
Kitten Binkie and Sneaky Spider by Nylabone,
$8.89 and $8.98, respectively.
Technically kitten teething toys, but Maisie, at 3½ years, has never outgrown her oral fixation and loves to chew. She has a binkie she keeps losing, and the spider is a new offering. She knew what these were before they came out of the package and nagged until we opened them.
Final instructions (DO NOT DEVIATE!!!)
Occupy your favorite seat, make sure your favorite person sits nearby, and kick back!!
Oh—I almost forgot—have a very merry, very mellow Christmas. That’s what I’ll be doing.